3-12 Points

Overall, you’re a pretty balanced person. You seem to know your strengths and have probably found ways of handling your weaknesses. Most people will consider you self-confident and strong, and yet you know that underneath, there are still some old, uncomfortably sensitive wounds.

You might have a hard time saying ‘No’, struggle with hesitancy and/or perfectionism, or you may find it difficult to ask for help. Or you might be over-distanced and controlled.

While you’ve probably done your fair share to fix these issues, they come in your way once in a while. And if that happens, you realise there is still work to be done. You might suddenly become unfair, defensive, rigid or snappy, or you might catch yourself putting others down (against your best intentions). The good news is: You’re able to observe yourself and learn from your behaviour.

For you, toxic shame will probably not be your most pressing issue. You might even go through life and never touch on it, and that wouldn’t be the worst life. After all, some wounds are well hidden (sometimes even from our own awareness), and for good reasons. And for a long time, this strategy has served you well.

However, if you want to grow into your full potential and dig even deeper (and I know many who do), you might realise you feel restricted by those wounds more than you like. Make the effort to take a closer look. Explore these shadows. Understand. Observe. Allow. Integrate. You’re well equipped to also handle deeper and more challenging emotions. Your win will be an even better and happier life.

Want to find out what’s in there for you?