Shame is a necessary feeling that belongs to us.
It helps to protect us and to regulate our boundaries.

But shame can also make us ill.
We hide ourselves away, fear judgment and criticism
and feel only half alive.
Shame also plays a significant role in mental illness.

Excessive shame is called chronic, toxic or traumatic shame.
A lot of times we don´t even realize that we are affected.
The reason is that we don´t want  to feel shame.
We deny and deflect this feeling.

Healing traumatic shame is not easy. But it is extremely rewarding.
Only few things can improve the quality of our life more
than gradually getting rid of our self refusal
and transforming it into positivity, appreciation and joie de vivre.

Our family, our children and our environment benefit from it as well.
That is because we pass our unhealed shame on to others.
Shame is contagious.

Shame is still a taboo.
It is hard for us to speak about it. This is because shame is so extremely painful.
Breaking this taboo is the first and most important step.

We are asked to transform our judgement about ourself and the world.
This is what we need to do. Not more. And not less.

Healing is a life long progress.
To face our shame can be the turning point.

I hope the information given will prove helpful
in finding new ways to access and heal this difficult feeling.

Good to have you here!


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